Priscilla Hunt, Certified Relationship Coach for Couples
The idea of New Year’s Resolutions for couples isn’t a mystery. We simply take stock of where we are and determine where we want to be. We don’t have to vow to change the world or make a breakthrough discovery or invention. We don’t have to give our relationship a total overhaul. We simply have to move forward.
What needs to change for you to move forward in your relationship? Don’t try to change everything at once. Choose one thing. Baby steps are enough. Add little things as you go.
Take off your rose-colored glasses and put aside the myth of happily-ever-after. Think growth. Think movement.
What will it take to get you from where you are to where you want to be? One thing for sure, you won’t get there by accident. We need to be intentional about moving forward. We need to be pro-active about our relationship instead of re-active. We need to own our part in making it good.
Make a date with your partner to sit down and evaluate where you each see your relationship – the strengths as well as the areas that need improvement. Start with the positive. What are you getting right? Celebrate it! Don’t get discouraged about the areas that aren’t so positive. ALL couples have those areas!
Make a plan. Write it down. Seek the support of a Relationship Coach to get you in touch with what you really want and help you set specific goals to achieve it.
Ask yourself these 3 questions and share your answers with your partner.
- What’s good about our relationship? What do I feel really good about? (Keep in mind that this is your perspective, it is not fact. Your partner might have a very different view of things. Be open and curious to understand their point of view.)
- What about our relationship could be improved? Where would I like to see us learn and grow?
- What are 3 things I’m personally willing to do to make that growth a reality?
Congratulations! You’re on your way to co-creating the relationship you can both be happy with.