https://courses.closecompanions.org/courses/the-promises-we-make“When we make a promise, we steal some of the uncertainty from our unknown tomorrows.” Greg Hunt, PhD
Introduction
We make promises to each other to express our commitment. Throughout our relationship we’ve made and kept promises. If you were married in a wedding ceremony, these promises were called “vows”.
We continue to make promises to each other, both big and small. The 5 Promises below are adapted from the book Radical Marriage: Your Relationship as Your Greatest Adventure by David and Darlene Steele.
Some you might agree with; some you might not. Simply use these 5 Promises to stoke your creative fire. How might you change them to use your words? What promises might you make to your partner?
Spend an evening sharing your promises with each other. At the end of this post you’ll find several resources to help you and your partner have a meaningful conversation.
Promise #1: I Promise to Love You Every Day
I know that love is a choice and I choose to love you every day. I choose to love you even when I’m upset or frustrated.
Promise #2: I Promise to Choose You First
You are the most important person in my life and I commit to not taking you or our relationship for granted. I will make you and our relationship a priority in my life. I understand that we are a “we” – not just “you” and “me”.
Promise #3: I Promise to Take Responsibility
I accept that my thoughts, feelings, attitudes, and actions are my own. I will speak for myself and own my point of view. I will accept responsibility for my actions and my words. I accept responsibility for my own happiness.
Promise #4: I Promise to Say “Yes!”
You deserve my positive response even when I don’t feel like it. If I’m unable to grant your desire or request 100%, I’ll work with you to find a creative way to meet your underlying need. Together we’ll get to “yes!”.
Promise #5: I Promise to be Your Champion
You deserve someone who will be there for you, love and support you unconditionally, no matter what. I believe in you and I believe in us. I’ve got your back. I am your champion.
Next Steps
Download PDF 5 Promises of Radical Commitment
Download worksheet for couples: The Promises We Make
Enroll in the FREE online course The Promises We Make
© 2015 Relationship Coaching Institute. Adapted with permission.